To acknowledge shameful experiences leads to feeling more shame. Have you ever felt completely stuck in your work with a client and not been able to put your finger on exactly why? Have you ever felt stuck in your own therapy and wondered why you weren't progressing? I can certainly relate to both of these experiences and would offer that perhaps in the obstacle is shame. It is incumbent upon clinicians to recognize shame in ourselves and in our clients. Shame that is not

Pride: “the happy confluence of the affect joy and the experience of personal efficacy” (Nathanson, 1987, p.186). In brief, when we feel adequate within ourselves, we feel pride; when we feel inadequate, we feel shame. Donald L. Nathanson writes: ‘Intrinsic to the experience of pride is a certain tendency to broadcast one’s success to the world, whereas equally true of shame is a wish to conceal (Nathanson,1987, p.184). Pride and shame oscillate “between public and private, b